Dr. Linda Nielsen

How good is your relationship?


Rate your relationship
0= never  1= rarely   2= sometimes  3 = almost always

Daughters  

  I talk directly to dad instead of going through mom to communicate with him.
  I go to him for advice and comfort about personal things.
I ask my dad what’s going on in his life besides his work
I tell him as much about my life as I tell my mother
I ask him to do things alone with me so we have time to talk privately.
I have spent just as much time getting to know him as I have with my mother.
I encourage him to ask me questions about my life.
I ask my dad about his life as a child and as a young man.
We are comfortable spending time together without other people around.
I am as open and honest with dad as I am with mom.
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  Your score (30 possible)

The higher your score, the more comfortable, personal, and meaningful a relationship you have. Scores between 10 and 15 mean you’re missing out on a lot in your relationship.   

Dads 

I spend time just with her without other family members
I give her as much time and attention as I give my other kids
I ask her questions about topics other than school or work
I tell her about aspects of my life other than work
I am as open and honest with her as I am with my other kids
I spend out time together getting to know her better
I feel that we are getting to know each other even more as we age
I encourage her to ask me questions about my life.
I  tell her that I love her
I have a special activity that I only share with her (breakfast at a certain restaurant, a sport we play together, cooking together )
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  Total score (30 max)

 The higher your score, the more comfortable, personal, and meaningful a relationship you have. Scores between 10 and 15 mean you’re missing out on a lot in your relationship.